Comments on: Who’s in charge? http://stephaniefrank.com/personal-empowerment/whos-in-charge/ Passion. Purpose. Power. Potential. Truth. Sat, 14 Aug 2010 00:58:34 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Stephanie http://stephaniefrank.com/personal-empowerment/whos-in-charge/comment-page-1/#comment-225 Stephanie Sat, 28 Nov 2009 20:11:15 +0000 http://stephaniefrank.com/?p=472#comment-225 Joy, thank you for your thoughtful post. Having lost a few business partners myself, I can totally understand. Here's what to do next. 1. Give yourself a time limit for grieving. Staying stuck and devastated is living in the past and will not help you. It's imperative to observe your feelings. In fact, write them down. 2. Consider a different perspective. What was the lesson learned in having this partnership? People come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime and always to teach us something about what to do, or not to do in a relationship. 3. Step outside yourself and observe the partnership from a "fly on the wall" perspective. What was working? What wasn't working? What did your partner need that you were unable to provide in the partnership? The answers to these questions, though they may be hard to answer at this moment, develop you as a leader and help you to take responsibility for the situation. 4. Let go of knowing "how" you're going to go on. Make a decision to keep going first, then surrender to the not knowing and the path will appear. These are the first steps. Keep going, Joy, you have a lot to offer the world through your business and you deserve to be able to share it. Stephanie Joy, thank you for your thoughtful post. Having lost a few business partners myself, I can totally understand. Here’s what to do next.

1. Give yourself a time limit for grieving. Staying stuck and devastated is living in the past and will not help you. It’s imperative to observe your feelings. In fact, write them down.

2. Consider a different perspective. What was the lesson learned in having this partnership? People come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime and always to teach us something about what to do, or not to do in a relationship.

3. Step outside yourself and observe the partnership from a “fly on the wall” perspective. What was working? What wasn’t working? What did your partner need that you were unable to provide in the partnership? The answers to these questions, though they may be hard to answer at this moment, develop you as a leader and help you to take responsibility for the situation.

4. Let go of knowing “how” you’re going to go on. Make a decision to keep going first, then surrender to the not knowing and the path will appear.

These are the first steps. Keep going, Joy, you have a lot to offer the world through your business and you deserve to be able to share it.

Stephanie

]]> By: Stephanie http://stephaniefrank.com/personal-empowerment/whos-in-charge/comment-page-1/#comment-224 Stephanie Sat, 28 Nov 2009 20:02:58 +0000 http://stephaniefrank.com/?p=472#comment-224 I recently worked with a private client who constantly affirmed "Good things happen to me. I don't know why, they just do!" Wouldn't it be amazing if we "accepted" the good things instead of focusing on "why is this bad thing happening to me?" I recently worked with a private client who constantly affirmed “Good things happen to me. I don’t know why, they just do!” Wouldn’t it be amazing if we “accepted” the good things instead of focusing on “why is this bad thing happening to me?”

]]> By: Joy Hooker http://stephaniefrank.com/personal-empowerment/whos-in-charge/comment-page-1/#comment-220 Joy Hooker Tue, 24 Nov 2009 18:44:54 +0000 http://stephaniefrank.com/?p=472#comment-220 I recently lost my business partner to another company and I am devastated and frozen in depression. She still calls and is trying to get me interested in her new company. I want to be focused and find a new partner that is loyal. How can I get over this and get back to work? I recently lost my business partner to another company and I am devastated and frozen in depression. She still calls and is trying to get me interested in her new company. I want to be focused and find a new partner that is loyal. How can I get over this and get back to work?

]]> By: Del Williams http://stephaniefrank.com/personal-empowerment/whos-in-charge/comment-page-1/#comment-219 Del Williams Tue, 24 Nov 2009 18:15:43 +0000 http://stephaniefrank.com/?p=472#comment-219 I agree with you that sometimes we go through life just "accepting" everything that happens. We do need to get some backbone and perhaps wise people around us to remind us that we are the captain of our life not circumstances or other people. I agree with you that sometimes we go through life just “accepting” everything that happens. We do need to get some backbone and perhaps wise people around us to remind us that we are the captain of our life not circumstances or other people.

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